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Modern love often includes swiping through a sea of faces, matching with a stranger, then chatting and meeting up for a first date. Dating apps have overtaken other ways of meeting partners — the blind date, the meet-cute, or the set-up. This year, about 40 percent of heterosexual couples in the United States met online. But online dating can be a slippery slope. Certain people can become overly dependent on dating apps and suffer from negative outcomes in their non-romantic life, research shows.
With the plethora of dating apps at our fingertips, it makes perfect sense that the process of online dating is so ingrained into our daily routine. During your morning commute, on your lunch break, right before bed But it's a slippery slope from 'I'll just download Tinder to see what the fuss is about' to waking up one day and realizing you have an entire folder full of dating apps.
There's nothing wrong with being proactive about finding love or hey, just a hookup — but can you actually get addicted to dating? According to Match's Singles in America study of more than 5, people, one in six singles said they felt addicted to the process of dating, and Millennials the generation most likely to date online are percent more likely to admit they're addicted to the process of dating, which goes to show just how much we've all been affected by the innovation of dating apps.
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Swipe-based giants like Tinder and Bumble make it easy to turn dating into nothing more than a game, where the prize is, at worst, an inflated ego and, at best, a real relationship. Although it might seem extreme to use the word 'addiction,' Melissa Scharfa therapist at Los Angeles-based rehabilitation center Sober College, says the hyper-accessibility of dating apps can make it easy to develop an unhealthy relationship with online dating. Our generation isn't going on those sites — they're going on [apps like] Bumble, where everything is quick, you're swiping away, so the obsession skyrockets.
Scharf definitely isn't wrong about the disparity between how Millennials and older generations date. The Singles in America study also found that Millennials are percent more likely to say they feel 'addicted' to dating than their Generation X or Baby Boomer counterparts. In spite of the drawbacks, Millennials are still relying on dating apps to connect them with potential partners.
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If you're a little trigger-happy with your swiping, here are five s that your search for romance might have moved into addiction territory. Actively dating takes a ton of time and effortbut how much time is too much?
If you obsessively check your phone for new matches or messages every chance you get — or feel anxious when you're unable to — it might be a that you're addicted.
There's no shame in bringing your phone to the bathroom if you really want to message that Hinge hottie back, but try to limit yourself to only checking your dating apps once or twice a day like during lunch and right before bed. That way, you won't miss out on responding to someone who's interested, but you also won't get fired for checking Tinder during a work meeting.
If your friendships, career, family, or hobbies are taking a backseat to your dating life, Scharf says that might be a that your relationship with online dating is growing unhealthy. As fun and exciting as it is to schedule three dates in one week, it's worth doing some reflecting and thinking about other productive ways you could be spending your time. After all, if you're independent and feel fulfilled and happy on your own, that might just help you meet someone who's really compatible with you and your lifestyle.
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There's no shame in getting a little ego boost when a particularly fiiiine person sends you a message. But things can get tricky if your self-esteem becomes tied to your success or failure on dating apps.
Using dating apps as a measure of validation isn't healthy, and you shouldn't let strangers dictate your self-worth. If your dating life has you down in the dumps and feeling unhappy with yourself, it might be time to take a step back and focus on bettering yourself as an individual before getting back into the dating game.
In the world of dating apps, things move at lightning speed. In theory, it's awesome to have the ability to connect so quickly with so many people. In reality, the fast-paced nature of dating apps can create a sense of pseudo-intimacy, and make you get attached to someone much more quickly than you typically might. One day, you could be flying high while chatting with someone who seems seriously promising.
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Then next thing you know, they've moved on to the next match and you're left reeling. If you feel like you're constantly cycling through emotions — excitement, happiness, hopefulness, confusion, heartbreak — it might be a that you could use a break from your dating apps. It's never fun to get dumped, and it's totally normal to crave a distraction in the form of someone new.
But if you feel compelled to swipe until you find a new crush to obsess over every time an online fling fizzles out, that might not be healthy. Relying on dating apps to help you move on after each and every heartbreak or rejection is only going to get you caught up in a vicious cycle of dependency on dating apps — which could make you more vulnerable in the long run.
Go cold turkey Hone in on who you are, what you're looking for, and what's important to you — and maybe that will re-frame how you see dating. By Laken Howard. See All Health Relationships Self.