How to get back at your ex best friend

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After a boyfriend and I broke up in spring, I was dating his good friend by summer. Their friends are often extensions of themselves.

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15 ways to deal when you and your bestie aren't friends anymore

Step 1. Take a leap of faith. A couple months back, my sister received a message from a former best friend of mine who happened to see my sister and me out together. She wanted to confirm it was me, while I wanted absolutely nothing to do with her.

Long story short, about five years earlier, I was going through one of the worst times of my life and my then-friend made a really poor excuse for not being there for me. Things were said and that was that.

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Not that it mattered, of course. A couple weeks later, I ended up running into her in person. It was definitely awkward, but I managed to be pleasant enough.

Around my birthday, I started to think about my life as many of us tend to do and decided I wanted to bring more positivity into it over the next year. I was thinking about the relationships I had, and this particular one seemed to stand out the most.

What happened a few years back was extremely hurtful, especially since we had known each other since we were 12, so cutting off the friendship was pretty difficult. Just reach out.

2. i don’t regret you

Send that first text or even DM them if you think calling is too much pressure. If fear is holding you back, think of it another way.

How would you feel if they reached out to you? But the truth is, no one is ever completely faultless.

Being defensive and making excuses is only going to make things worse. Beyond that, it can possibly lead to an even bigger fight.

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Certified counselor Jonathan Bennett says that finding a way to forge a new bond with your old BFF can make reconnecting a whole lot easier. For example, you can go back to a coffee place that you always used to go to together. By finding commonalities you share, he said, you increase the odds of having your friend accept your offer to reconnect.

Do you want to stay in touch and work on rebuilding what you once had? Or was this meeting meant to be closure? At the end of that first meeting, you should decide if forming a new friendship will be worth it or not.

If you decide to give your friendship another go, be patient. Take it slow and let the friendship naturally deepen without any expectations or pressure.

Good friendships are pretty hard to find. People do change, so some friendships may not be salvageable.

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